102 N. Cross St., #2
Wheaton IL 60187

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ABOUT US

Our relationship began with adventure. We met in the baggage claim area of Chicago's OHare airport en route to separate international mission trips, which led to our college romance and marriage in 1992. We have lived through the "in the trenches" years -- traveling to different states for graduate school and jobs while going through pregnancies, loss, births, and new parenting far away from family. We have four incredible children who are now forging their ways in the world as young adults and we've learned that parenting will always be our greatest ongoing and never-ending adventure. Sharing the lessons we've learned along the way is our greatest joy.

 

DAVID VAN DYKE

{description by his wife, Tara}

Playful, adaptable, and process-oriented are a few words that describe David. I think mischievous wouldn’t be too far off either! He is not afraid to shake up old ways of doing things, and often says some rules are meant to be suggestions rather than absolutes. Though he wasn’t a huge fan of attending class when we were in college, he is a deep thinker and a lifelong learner, and has earned great respect as a professor and counselor. David doesn’t take himself too seriously, yet deeply values the people and relationships in his life. It is this abiding love for people of all types that drew me to him in 1989 on a summer mission trip. We share a curiosity about the world and have a big-picture way of thinking that puts our lives and problems in perspective. His flexible nature has been a good balance to my structured approach in parenting, and he has made true his promise of making sure we laugh every day of our lives together.


Qualifications:

  • Father of 4

  • B.A., Psychology, Wheaton College

  • M.S., Marriage & Family Therapy, Fuller Theological Seminary

  • Ph.D., Child & Family Development, University of Georgia

  • Director, Marriage & Family Therapy masters program, Wheaton College

  • Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

  • Approved Clinical Supervisor


*For a more detailed professional bio, please email withuparenting@gmail.com

TARA VAN DYKE

{description by her husband, David}

After more than 25 years of marriage I know Tara as a wise, nurturing, and unflappable woman.  Tara and I met at O’Hare airport and have been on an adventure ever since.  The things that attracted me to her then continue to be the traits that make her an excellent doula, partner, and parent.  Her wisdom is demonstrated by her ability to hold in tension the needs of the moment with how these moments are part of a bigger picture.  When things are tense or challenges lie ahead, her steadiness arises from knowing that this moment is important and it is temporary in light of where we are going.  I am amazed by Tara’s consistency and ultimate focus of building up the other through a safe and secure relationship.  I love hearing the testimonials from couples because they reflect my experience of Tara as my partner and mother of four now grown children.  She is consistently open and available to others, working towards the big picture journey of healthy development, and providing an example of compassionate community in the face of life’s joys and challenges.


Qualifications:

  • Mother of 4

  • B.A., Communications, Wheaton College

  • Certified Birth Doula, International Childbirth Educators Association

  • Owner, With U Birth Doula Services

  • Certified Bringing Baby Home Educator, Gottman Institute

  • Founding member, DuPage Doula Network

OUR FAMILY

 

TARA'S STORY

Wow, I wish I knew what a doula was for the births of my four children. When my first baby was on the way, I read a few books about what to expect and dutifully lugged my pillow and my husband to hospital childbirth classes, but when I finally went into labor 10 days past my due date, let's just say things didn't go exactly as I'd envisioned them. 


The question families ask me most frequently is why I decided to become a doula. The short answer is that new parents need and deserve top-quality, continuous care when they are most vulnerable. The longer answer comes partly from the questions I asked myself after that first labor experience:

  • How did I feel unprepared when I had read the books and gone to the classes?

  • Why did we feel so lost and alone even in our highly-rated hospital and with our chosen doctor?

  • How can new parents feel stronger and more empowered after birth and less traumatized and overwhelmed?


My journey to parenthood included experiences with miscarriage, Pitocin induction, epidural, episiotomy, instrumental delivery, unmedicated birth, and finally a hospital birth attended by my husband, mother, and mother-in-law! I learned a lot along the way about how to find the information and support I needed. I want all parents to have a positive beginning as their baby is born, and a beautiful story to tell for the rest of their lives. I am passionate about the power of family life transitions, and so became a doula and educator to encourage, support, and empower parents in their new roles.